Most commonly known as “couple’s disease,” erectile dysfunction can creep into a relationship affecting both partners. Unfortunately, in most cases, men are very reluctant to talk to the partner or seek medical help if he is experiencing the problem.
Research has shown that more than 30 million men across the globe are affected by erectile dysfunction. If your partner is experiencing ED, the first step should be about encouraging him to open up and seek medical help.
A study conducted by the University of Oregon has indicated that men who have opened up to their spouses or partners regarding their sexual issues are less stressed than those who didn’t.
In many cases, it has been noted that once men realize their sexual dysfunction, they become distant from their partners.
The article is a part of our series on “What is Erectile Dysfunction: A Complete Guide”
How can Ed affect relationships?
Sexual intimacy plays an integral part in marriage or any long-term relationship. A study conducted in 2014 has indicated that erectile dysfunction can make men feel:
- Isolated
- Depressed
- Angry
- Lacking in self-confidence
- Having the desire to avoid their spouse
- Less masculine
- Socially isolated
- In denial
Another review conducted in 2016 indicated that ED can make a person feel anxious, confused, undesirable, or suspicious that their partner may be unfaithful.
How to deal with ED in a marriage/ relationship?
Erectile dysfunction can be appropriately treated with correct medical treatment. In addition, there are a variety of treatment options to improve sexual function.
If your partner is diagnosed with ED, it is essential to keep in mind that you should give him all the necessary emotional and mental support possible.
If possible, a couple can take up a joint appointment and consult a certified doctor. This will help you understand your options in choosing an effective treatment method.
Sometimes to choose an effective treatment, the person will have to try various options and undergo several tests. Therefore, this will be an important time in which they will expect their partner’s support.
Here are some of the most proven and effective ways through which you could give support to your partner:
- Counseling
- Having open communication with your partner
- Giving emotional support through other forms of intimacy
- Adopting a healthy lifestyle etc.
1. Effective communication
For many men who are suffering from ED, it may cause guilt and embarrassment. As a result, they will get increasingly reluctant to approach their partners or show any intimacy.
Unfortunately, on the other hand, women may not be aware of this and might misinterpret it as a rejection.
In situations like these, having an open and healthy conversation will help clear any confusion or misunderstanding and give comfort to both partners.
2. Counseling
This is one of the most effective ways to tackle ED and prevent it from affecting a relationship.
With individual counseling, you could provide a non-judgemental and private space to talk about the various difficulties faced by the patient.
A trained counselor can provide effective ways and exercises to help a person manage the mental turmoils caused due to ED.
3. Other forms of intimacy
Sex is not the only means of showing intimacy. There are innumerable ways through which a person can express intimacy to the other partner.
You could use other forms of physical intimacy such as cuddling, kissing, non-sexual touching, and holding hands.
Sexologists also suggest trying out other forms of non-penetrative sexual activity. This can reduce the burden of expectation on the males to perform.
How to talk about ED with your partner?
Many men find it highly uncomfortable to open up about ED. However, as mentioned at the beginning of this article, effective communication is the key to tackle this problem.
Think which place and time will be apt to talk about ED with your partner. How about your bedroom or a walk on the beach?
For females, make sure that you reassure your partner that ED is treatable and you will be with him.
